Every year after the finale of “The Bachelor in Paradise,” I patiently wait for the first Monday of January to watch the season premiere of “The Bachelor.” The unrealistic way to find love and drama between the contestants and investment in the bachelor or bachelorette’s journey to find love continuously draws in a large audience.
The bachelor this season, Peter Weber, is a 28-year-old pilot from Westlake Village, California. He is most famous for doing “it” four times in the windmill with last year’s bachelorette, Hannah Brown. I was extremely excited for Weber to be the bachelor. He has a cool job and is good looking, smart and sweet. The whole package. Unfortunately, I was disappointed.
Now, Weber is one of my least favorite Bachelors. He was obviously in love with Madison Prewett, despite his parents, especially his mother’s, dramatic disapproval, and was broken-hearted when she left. Instead of choosing to leave the show to be with her, however, he decided to propose to Hannah Ann Sluss anyways. He also neglected to tell her that Prewett had left the show until two seconds before he proposed and I am not certain that he meant to tell her at all.
“… I have to follow my heart. So, Madison … she left two days ago. Hannah Ann, your beautiful spirit is honestly like nothing I’ve ever seen before,” Weber said.
Did he accidently call her Madison? It was in the middle of his proposal speech with a five second pause after he said Prewett’s name. Wow. There is no way that he didn’t know that he was still in love with Prewett at this point. If you are proposing to someone and say another girl’s name, then maybe you shouldn’t go through with it. I don’t know if proposing to Sluss was something he was pressured into doing by his mom or something that he felt he had to do but it was not a very good decision. Getting engaged is special. It isn’t something you do just for fun or that you feel like you have to do. You get engaged to someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. The way he played with Sluss’ feelings like that just broke my heart and made me lose all respect for him.
I also thought it was extremely unfair for Chris Harrison to try to get Prewett and Weber back together after his engagement was broken off. Imagine being Sluss watching the man that you loved get back with the girl he had been thinking about throughout your entire engagement while you just stand there on national television blindsided and heartbroken. I understand that it is “The Bachelor” and it was Peter’s journey to find love, but they shouldn’t have brought Prewett back like that while Sluss had to watch and have cameras filming her reaction.
“I’m trying to be as honest with myself and as honest with you as I possibly can. Because I have not been able to give my entire heart to you, and you know why that is,” Weber said on the finale show.
How rude is that? He knew that he was in love with Prewett the entire time but decided to continue play with Sluss’ emotions for another month or so.
“Torn and conflicted Peter. All throughout when I stood by your side. And you took the most precious moment I could ever imagine away from me because you selfishly just did not want me to walk away,” Sluss said.
I admire Sluss’ strength to stay calm and stand up to him in a mature way after they broke off their engagement. Everything she said to him was so spot on and well worded. I hope to see her again in future Bachelor shows and I think that Weber’s mom, Barbara, would agree with me.
“Don’t let her go, don’t let her go. That is what love stories are made out of and God has placed her there for you. Now bring her home. Bring her home to us,” Barbara said between sobs.
The entire Weber family was rooting for Sluss to win their son’s heart forever. Barbara even referred to her as “an angel on Earth.” Barbara’s overdramatic bawling was very manipulative and while I can’t completely blame her or justify Peter’s awful decision, I think she played a major role in convincing him to try things out with Sluss. The amount of hatred she felt for Prewett was absurd and borderline unhealthy. I don’t think it was fair of Prewett to tell Weber that she didn’t know if she would be able to continue with their relationship if he was intimate with any of the other girls either. I understand where she was coming from but also saw it as controlling and unfair due to the fact that Weber completely accepted her personal choice about sex, but she didn’t respect his. It seems like Barbara just didn’t want her son to fall into a controlling relationship which is strange because her relationship with her son is also very controlling. I think that loved ones definitely should voice their concerns and help people who may be blinded by love see the reality of the real world, but Barbara went way past a loving concern. I thought it was very immature of her to publicly trash Weber and Prewett’s relationship so violently.
I am disappointed and frustrated with the outcome of this season but it makes me more excited for the next season of “The Bachelorette.” Hopefully older, more mature contestants will transform the show back into a place of love and respect instead of a way to get Instagram- famous and travel the world.
The new bachelorette, Clare Crawley, is not new to the Bachelor scene. In 2014, Bachelor nation first saw Crawley on Juan Pablo’s season of “The Bachelor” where he continually treated her poorly and shamed her for her sexuality. When Pablo broke up with Crawley, she stood up to him and called him out for his misogynist behavior. After “The Bachelor,” she went on to be on two consecutive seasons of“The Bachelor in Paradise” where she is best known for befriending a racoon. When Crawley failed to find love yet again in Paradise, she appeared on the “Bachelor Winter Games” where she got engaged to Benoit Beausejour-Savard from Canada’s “Bachelorette.” This relationship ended within a few months after the show was over in 2018.
Now, at 38 years old, Crawley enters the Bachelor scene once more as the oldest bachelorette and Bachelor Nation has had mixed reactions.
Fans of Crawley’s age are extremely optimistic about this season. In the past few seasons the contestants on the show have been only getting younger. Fans are hopeful that Crawley will turn the show around and ensure a more mature season where the contestants are truly ready for marriage which may lead to longer successful relationships. Instead of devoting her life to becoming a social media influencer, Crawley enjoys her peaceful life in Sacramento, California working as a hairstylist and spending time outdoors. To fans, the new Bachelorette offers an escape from the usually overall emotional and dramatic young girls who are more focused on the fame and image of being on the show rather than the actual search for love. The older contestants on the show may lead to a greater desire for true love and marriage than the younger contestants have.
Critics of Crawley feel as if she has had too many chances to find love considering that this will be her fifth season on the show. On her second season of “The Bachelor in Paradise,” Clare angered many of the contestants when she made a comment about how the people who she had been with in previous seasons had been more genuine. She also got the nickname “Crazy Clare” when she was filmed talking to animals in Paradise.
It is rumored that most of the men will be in their late 20s, making them almost ten years younger than Crawley. This huge age gap may lead to Crawley not having much in common with the men and getting frustrated with their young age. Also, this season of “The Bachelor in Paradise” will be quite interesting with the mix of young 23 year old girls and men in their late 20s or early to mid 30s.
I think that it was a good idea to cast an older bachelorette but a slower transition with better known and received former contestants would have been ideal. The age gap in “Paradise” will be troublesome because the contestants might have different values in life. This will lead to frustration, confusion and possibly a lower success rate of love.